6 romance mistakes that are costing you big

So here you are, in the romance of your life and you forget to read this article, is there something you doing that is killing it.  Romance is the "love of life," and when two people share it, towards similar things in life, it brings a freshness like the morning dew on leaves, and like the glistening of sunshine on the dew it will further accentuate your love life.

6 common romance mistakes that could cost you big :

1.  Are you talking behind her back.
2.  Are you forgetting to dream and love together.
3.  Are you not giving love time and rushing into sex.
4.  You are not seeing the signs that your partner is emanating.
5.  Romance requires that you hold each other in high esteem.
6.  Romance doesn't require nudges and hints, instead it is very open in its outlook.

With these common mistakes covered, it could be only a matter of time before you hit it high in love and romance.

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Think you are cut out for marriage

I thought so too, and I hadn't written the article then, marriage is a committed relationship and requires love and caring from both sides.  So here I was riding my white horse, thinking I was ready for marriage, "till the horse said it was a mule," and the prince charming in me turned into an ordinary person, trying to make a good thing out of marriage.  Marriages are run on money and earning money was one of the prerogatives, the rules were different from the one's I had envisaged and yet I trudged along.

10 things to consider before getting married :

1.  What can't you give up after marriage, you probably will have to give it up.
2.  Are you willing to make sacrifices, love is about sacrifices.
3.  Part of your social life would have to be given up now that you are committed.
4.  Social dating is very different from committed marriage.
5.  It is based on idealistic love.
6.  You would have to think of supporting children based on your partners preferences.
7.  What is yours now may not be so later after you get married.
8.  Its the little things that make a difference in marriage.
9.  Like dumping garbage, picking up groceries, picking your baby from school.
10.These little things have to be completed before you dream the romance of your life.

It's great if the number match up after the above things to considered and you certainly are made for marriage.

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20 myths about great romances

If you are like the rest of us and have grown up seeing movies that hollywood churns out, turning romances into mushy tear jerkers while we wait for our prince charming and princesses, it's time to realise that things are not what they seem to be.  For every single sucker there is a myth about romance waiting to be busted.

20 myths about great romances :

1.  Finding the right partner completes the love and romance.
2.  Soul mates are meant to meet and marry.
3.  Eat drink and pray love is all you need.
4.  I will know if I am infatuated or in love.
5.  She will love you no matter what.
6.  She will accept you as you are, without demanding any changes
7.  Love and marriage complement each other.
8.  You will love her ever after without any extra effort being made.
9.  The moment you are unhappy in romance, she will ask you why.
10.The cosmos will stop giving you choices better suited to your profile.
11.Marriages grow better with time.
12.Growing old with the woman of your dream.
13.If love is what you give, it will come around to you from the same person.
14.Good sex will not play a huge part in your romance.
15.What if there is a knight in shining armour.
16.If you love someone set them free.
17.Love is blind.
18.Romance has nothing to do with physical appearances.
19.Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
20.There is nothing logical about love.

If you find a myth that is holding you back, get out and take a rain check on it.

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5 advantages of living my life

Relationships cause strife in humans, where normally they would be pleasant, amiable human beings, being in a relationship immediately changes the perspective of the person.  From trite pleasantness to rude indifference I have seen everything with so called friends, they have changed colours and changed again, when they needed me back.  "Isn't for nothing," its said, "If you love someone set them free," and of course if they come back, they might want to stay or go off again.  "My hearts a guest house," some would say, and correctly so, there are many exits from here but only one entrance, this way I always know who enters.

The doorman to my heart is a tearful soul, the only question he would ask someone entering back is, "Why are you back ?" and if you are smart enough you would answer, "Because I want to be back in his life," and the doorman would go off in tearful fits asking you to etch my name on his forearm and leave you wondering if perhaps he also was a lost soul who left me to come back and join me permanently

I have my own advantages amongst which included are :

1.  Give you studied privacy.
2.  Limited opinion giving.
3.  Contrived interest if you are not interested.
4.  Space to conduct your business.
5.  Space to grow into a human being.

I couldn't resist the urge to giving the pointers, so used to I have become writing everything in points, as I strive to become an authority on human relationships.  From father, mother to son and daughters and wife, husband, I have seen them all and seen them grow to perfection within my small life.

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Is silence good for your relationship

Silence does everything the opposite of communication - it kills relations, it complicates, it causes pain and anger and is the single most important relationship killer.  When we are in a relationship, we must learn to talk and more importantly communicate our desires, frustrations, wants and needs, talking helps these things come out.

7 reasons silence is not good for a relationship :

1.  Silence can be stifling in a relationship.
2.  Silence kills more relationships than does shouting.
3.  Are you silent thinking it will tide over the problem.
4.  Silence affects your health as you suppress emotions, could even lead to cancer.
5.  Talking eases the burden of the problem for both parties concerned.
6.  Keep tab of why and when you were silent in a disagreement.
7.  It will help analyse if your personality is killing a relation you are in.

If one is in a relationship in which the partner is encouraging silence, it is best to come out of it because silence will kill it anyhow.  A dominating personality is no reason to keep silent, for talk we must.

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Are you a successful dating person

Dating is a social game that all humans indulge in or would like to indulge in, it is a precursor to larger things, in some cases marriage itself.  Here are 7 pointers to finding out if you are a successful at dating most of the times and what constitutes a successful date.


7 pointers that say that you are successful dating person :

1.  Does she tell you every time after the date that it was good.
2.  You rarely need ice breakers, you are comfortable talking.
3.  Your partner hardly notices the location, you are so good at making her feel comfortable.
4.  You rate yourself every time without any other motivation but to find out how good you are.
5.  You have never rated yourself less than 8/10.
6.  Word gets around that you are good.
7.  You decide the places. locations, food cuisine etc before the date, you believe in planning.

You need a good date for your self esteem, go for it.

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How to keep success in marriage going

Keeping marriage going is an activity that requires careful analysis of the successful points, though it would be fair to say that too much of analysis could be detrimental to the success of your marriage.  Marriage is a combination of big as well as a lot of smaller successes, it will be the smaller points that will make your life a whole lot easier when it comes to married life.  Make the smaller things count, do the small things, pick up the garbage, drop your baby to school, pick up the groceries etc. - it's the smaller things that are a precursor to rekindling romance.

14 steps to keeping success in marriage going :

1.  When analysing success in marriage, attack it like a business problem.
2.  Repeat successful steps
3.  Success in marriage is an emotional victory.
4.  Don't get too carried away with the business analysis.
5.  Small successes matter, aim for smaller ones.
6.  Small successes are big things in marriage.
7.  The big things come once in a while.
8.  Go back into the past to evolve successful strategies for the present.
9.  Never revisit a resolved past.
10.Success in marriage is a family activity.
11.Love her parents just as she loves yours.
12.Make friends with her friends, its a mutual agreement.
13.Sacrifice in love, marriage is about love.
14.Remember Jesus was love himself.

Loving your wife and marriage is God's work, every single step that you take towards a successful marriage is fulfilling your promise to God.

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How to get over that first failure when dating

Failures can be plenty while dating, the immediate concern is to getting over that first failure.  It can have an affect on the morale of the person and is important to understand that it is not a reflection on you as a person, but just the way life is sometimes.


7 cool ways to getting over first failure when dating :

1.  Ensure you remain with a good outlook for the future.
2.  Let your self confidence speak for itself.
3.  Know that a failure in dating is not a reflection on you.
4.  Don't analyse, just go for the second date.
5.  Keep your cool, do not get obsessive.
6.  Learn some cool ice breakers.
7.  Learn to know when a girls interested in you.

Dating can be fun, get these cool tips to keep moving.

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How to get over failure

Failures are a part of life and though you might think you have had enough of failures, you never know when that brand of success will start sticking to you.  A trail of successes make for some heady thoughts and to bring them on, we first have to get over the thoughts of failure and know that success is waiting around the corner.

7 ways to get over failure :

1.  Think positive and think of the times when you had it going like a breeze.
2.  Work everyday towards a goal.
3.  Plan your day and routine your time.
4.  Work to meet people who give you a sense of success.
5.  Imbibe success in every activity of yours.
6.  Think of failures as a stepping stone to success.
7.  Success will come to you despite or inspite of repeated failures, its the way of life.

Be positive from the word go, your mornings should be ripe with positivity and the evenings even more so, as you look at successes however small they might be.

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How to mend your relationships

Relationships are built on give and take, and as a person who is mending them, it is important for you to give in the first place.  Give your relations the space and time that they require from you, every relationship has a time space zone within which it operates, if you give them the love and care they need, they will come back to you every time you want them to.

7 ways to mend your relationships :

1.  Start calling your relationships regularly.
2.  Comment and like on social media on their posts.
3.  Visit them regularly in the physical world.
4.  Be there for the relations when they need you.
5.  Wish birthdays and anniversaries.
6.  Help the relations in their everyday life
7.  Always be the one they remember.


Always look to mend your relationships, nothing works like friends and family being there for you when you want them.  The same thought works vice versa too.

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How to keep your relationships from sinking

In the modern society relationships keep breaking up and cracking up as people forget to oil them.  Also work schedules leave very little for our personal relationships as we tend to ignore them.  With the modern man running after success, relationships get left far behind, even as it gets harder to forge new bonds, crisscrossing of trails give us an opportunity to make new relationships but who has the time.

10 ways to keep your relationships from sinking :

1.  Keep the conversation going.

2.  Keep the love fire burning.

3.  Do for others what they do for you, love them for who they are.

4.  Be sensitive to the needs of others, some require more love than the others.

5.  Be there for people when they need you, in financial and medical emergencies.

6.  Keep them in the know of your intent, where are you coming from.

7.  Be sure you oil the flame regularly, talk to people regularly.

8.  Keep your loved ones in the loop, so that they know the real you.

9.  Live more off the social media than on it, its a real world out there.

10.Call up regularly, nothing beats talking.

Crisscross of trails affords the largest opportunity in the modern world, as peoples trails crisscross for them to forge new friendships.

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How to nurture the bond of marriage

Marriages are meant to be the fulfilling love that we all seek, the bond of love that we try and preserve, it is in the vows we take and to love each other till we die.  But despite the vows, marriages need to be nurtured with tender love so as to come into their elements, a love that will seek to build on itself so that the marriage succeeds.

7 ways to nurture your marriage :

1.  Build your marriage on sacrifices.
2.  Remember to always thank God for the splendid love he has given you.
3.  Remember small small things make a love filled marriage.
4.  Do your duty as the husband, take decisions that impact her with her consent.
5.  Keep her at the top of your list of things to do, she is most important.
6.  Cherish her and be sure to nourish the love.
7.  Give her the commitment she needs.

Marriage is the biggest bond of God, it is a gift of God, to love God is to love each other.

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How to storyboard your book

Storyboarding is nothing but casting the windows of the story so that you have a Act/Scene which says what should come next in the chapter.  It is an overview of how we should place things or events in our novel, where we want to go with the book and keeps us guided and focussed on what we want to achieve with the story.

12 ways to the classic methodology of storyboarding :

1.  Brainstorm a list of topics for your book.
2.  Find the 5 most important points of your book.
3.  Start with a 3 Act structure - good beginning, middle and end.
4.  Add triggering events, the most important launch of the book
5.  Add the first turning points, the first low point or the point where things bottom out.
6.  The first triggering event and first turning point are the ACT 1.
7.  New ideas are gathered and we reach the Pop moment.
8.  Here the story implodes
9.  We could add a second turning point after the Pop moment, a point of absolute low in the book
10.New light comes to the characters here and they start to move up to Act III
11.Resolution happens in point 5 and there is positive momentum.
12.All the islands of information in the book should make sense to someone other than oneself.

The best storyboarding will have three acts and positive and negative lines that we place events in based on triggering events or turning points.

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