Great ice breakers on a first date

Feeling tongue tied on your first date, here are some great ice breakers to get you quickly off and running.  Ask a question, remember asking a questions evinces your interest in the other person, it also gives you time to cool your heels while the question is sought to be answered.

Here are 7 great icebreakers on a first date :

1.  Where do you normally go to eat ?
2.  What is your best cuisine ?
3.  Do you like this place ?
4.  Where did you go study ?
5.  What do you think is the best thing to order in a place like this ?
6.  Do you like cooking ?
7.  What do normally like drinking ?

Ice breakers are to move the conversation in a particular direction, they are by no means the end of the conversation, but the more you know about a person, the easier it will be for you to strike a conversation with the person.  Also the right questions make a person feel comfortable, and for a woman comfort is a big thing on a first date.

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Teachers guide to asking a girl out

Asking a girl out should be easy right, after all, there are only two ways that question can be answered, Yes or No.  But unless you really try to find out whether she would want to go out with you, unless you really ask, there is no way you will have the answer.  A girl looks at various perspectives before deciding on going out with a guy, but the one reason she is looking at most is the comfort level she has with you.

7 ways to asking a girl out :

1.  If you are romantically inclined, then ask her subtly, like pouring a glass of red wine.
2.  Sometimes a straight forward question does the job especially if she is comfortable with you.
3.  Ask her out, after you found out that she is free that day.
4.  Make it sound like a date, not just friends going out.
5.  Make sure she doesn't friend zone you, sound your intentions before hand.
6.  Dress up nicely, and confidently ask her out.
7.  Unless you ask you will never know, so be prepared for rejection.

Girls make up their minds about guys fast, you would be surprised how quick the answer would be if you are confident and courageous.

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6 reasons to never give up

As I sit on my chair with my feet on the footstool, I contemplate the reasons for failure in projects. We all have failures in life, it doesn't mean we stop working towards a goal.  It is human to want to be better and as I sipped tea, I looked over my life and saw failure looming large on me.  The shadow is too huge to avoid, and I am like a dog sparring with the shadow without realising that it's my own shadow.


6 reasons to never give up :

1.  Look at life the way it should be and not the way it is.
2.  Every failure will bring with it new frontiers to bridge.
3.  Failures are emotionally cathartic.
4.  Without analysing too much, would you be a better person without failures.
5.  Not getting to where you want is not reason enough to give up
6.  Never give up.

Writing is a cathartic process on its own, without it, there would be no tomorrow for me.  I would believe, that you write even when you have nothing to write.

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Myths about happy marriages

Marriages are made in heaven and here I present to you myths that you would have never heard of before, all marriages have similar problems, its not the problems but how you tackle the problems that determine the fate of a marriage.  Very often not knowing what a happy marriage is like can lead to discrepancy in our married life, when one is envious of the other couple for having a happy married life.


9 myths about happy marriages :

1.  Happy couples never fight.
2.  They never talk bad about their spouses.
3.  They never squeal about their spouses.
4.  In a happy marriage, the roles of the partners reverse over time, so that they get to see each others point of view.
5.  Number of fights is inversely proportional to happiness in marriage.
6.  The partners hold each others parents in high esteem.
7.  Happy couples never work at making their marriage exciting.
8.  Happy couples never have to work on being nice to each other.
9.  They never have to give gifts to each other and compliment each other.

A happy marriage is about being best friends to each other, over a period of time this relationship develops into a soul mate.

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What to give her on her birthday

Birthdays come and go, if that perfect gift is not found for the person of your dreams.  A gift makes a birthday special and remembered, many people oft say, "That gift was given on my 45th birthday," to remember who gave them that gift that made the birthday special.  For her birthday, you have to give her something subtle and yet something that stands out.  Remember it is not about the cost, but what will click with her as the gift she wants, here I present a range of gifts to bring a smile onto her face.


6 gifts for her on her birthday :

1.  A bouquet of handpicked flowers - roses, lilies and orchids, along with a box of Lindt chocolate. - Rs 5000
2.  Sony headphones for her Apple laptop - Rs 4500
3.  Rustic carved wooden heart dish - Rs 2500
4.  Bespoke Post Brut box - Bubbly, champagne sabre and two glasses - Rs 4000
5.  MVMT Gold/Peach Leather watch - Rs 8000
6.  Marc Jacobs Daisy Perfume - Rollerball trio   Rs 4000


Choose from the perfect gift above and make her day a special one.

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How do you end a committed relationship

Ending a relationship is never easy, be it a committed one or a non committal one, what may, it might be asked, be the status of the people when they wouldn't mind ending a relationship.  Obviously in a non committal relationships, both the people involved know that there couldn't be a legitimate societal end to it and that they are in it only for fun.  Even then it is difficult to end, as one of the party might think it is the aggrieved one and decide to prolong it further.  A committed relationship is much harder to end and requires careful consideration of facts and opinions.


7 ways to end a committed relationship :

1.  Tell her how it is on her face, not the best option but an honest one at that.
2.  Use your work as the yardstick to determine the scale of damage if you left her now.
3.  Use the Cosmos connect to find out what is best for her and tell her as is.
4.  Solve her love life and choose to leave after the most accepted solution presents itself.
5.  The cosmos is forever determining the best matches for us based on our current situation and it will for her too.
6.  A bad patch in the relationship may not necessary mean an end to it.
7.  You are the best judge of the situation.

A committed relationship ending doesn't mean the end of life, though it may rank as pretty close to that.

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How to get over a broken heart

A derailed love affair is not hard to imagine especially if you haven't seen each other for a long while.  Broken hearts tend to hurt more if we don't get into the act of finding out why it happened the way it happened.  It could be that she was to blame more than you or the other way around but mending the heart is a tough job.  Some hearts mend, others bleed for a while.


10 ways to getting over a broken heart :
1.  Engross yourself in work.
2.  Make new friends and meet new people.
3.  Get into a hobby you love.
4.  Don't stalk the past love.
5.  Evolve from a jealous mammal to a mature mammal.
6.  Don't question how it happened, find out why it happened.
7.  Don't get into another relationship on the rebound.
8.  Strengthen your existing family ties.
9.  A strong family bond makes it easier to come out of a heartache.
10.Use the cosmos correction methodology to find out why it happened.

Remove yourself from the situation after apportioning your part in the derailed love affair and walk away peacefully, knowing that you have done the right thing.

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How to make up after a fight

Sometimes fight start over a few words and go on for what seems like forever.  Daniel Morgan and Bella Joel fought over seemingly a trivial issue and didn't see each other for 6 months.  "One perfect love," is a perfect demonstration of the fact that most fight issues will seem trivial after a period of time.  It's the love that brings us back to each other, and maybe a separation does us good too.  Daniel and Bella got married with their love vows reinforced.

14 points on how to make up after a fight :

1.  You can't act normal after a fight, know it happened.
2.  Are you trying to make up, then go for things she likes.
3.  A kiss and hug goes a long way in making up.
4.  So you think you don't understand her, well nobody is a mind reader.
5.  The right kind of food after a fight goes a long way.
6.  Have a blissful dessert, the both of you.
7.  Sometimes fights have an unending cycle, know that not all fights can be resolved the same day.
8.  Go back to the blissful past for resolution.
9.  What was the fight about.
10.Give in, when you can.
11.Fight to get the fight out of your head.
12.Think positive and leave the negativity behind.
13.Communicate not just talk.
14.All relationships have fights involved, learn to get over them.

Fights are part of a relationship between a man and woman because they think differently.  As a matter of fact, when I create characters for fiction, I have to think about both my male and female readers, they like different things in male and female characters.  It's a tough balancing act as is the resolution of a fight.

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What is the cosmos connect

Cosmos connect and correction mode are two terms from the book "One perfect love" and the book talks about it in more details.  However for understanding, it is enough to say that the cosmos is always working to correct wrongs and make it the perfect world.  If you have never been in love or have been in love with the wrong person, it will determine the right person for you based on your current status and point out the person to you.  It is left to you to make the move on this love that could be so vast that it would diminish all your current paradigms to nothing.

7 ways to know you are connected to the Cosmos :

1.  Is your work pointing out the person who you should love.
2.  Are you able to solve the love life of the one you love through your work.
3.  Have you been able to determine where the trails criss crossed.
4.  The Cosmos always works in correction mode.
5.  By solving things you are working with the Cosmos in correction mode.
6.  Are you able to connect to her likes and dislikes now.
7.  Is the cosmos telling you that she could be your soulmate.

The world in correction mode is the reality of the Cosmos, from environment bullying to world wars, everything is corrected here.

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How to find the person you could love

Finding that one perfect love is a task that requires maturity and wisdom.  Maturity because it doesn't mean to party hop or be too desperate and wisdom because it requires the Cosmos to be on your side. On the flip side you might be just lonely and not really looking for someone to love but to talk.  Know what love is and go for it when the Cosmos tells you the time is right.

12 ways to find the person you could love :

1.  Look in the right places, you are looking for love not a fling.
2.  Common interests and aims should guide you.
3.  Take up hobby classes, more chances of finding the one of your dreams.
4.  Be social, go to events and occasions, more probability of finding that one.
5.  Be active on social media, communicate.
6.  Know that sex and love are not the same thing.
7.  Is the cosmos asking you to look for the person.
8.  If you have found the person, connect to her dreams and aspirations.
9.  Take the next step of realising why and how you met.
10.Solve the past love life of the woman of your dreams.
11.Everybody has a past, don't get overawed by the task, redeem it to your benefit.
12.Know that your one perfect love is within your grasp.

Knowing that the Cosmos is on your side and guiding you in making the choice is the surest sign that you can get.  Signs can be misleading and daunting in trying to figure out, don't be mislead into something which is not your cup of tea.  Remember that you are looking for love and will find it.

  

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How to know if a girl is really interested in you

In her perseverance to win him over, Bella came over as too strong, "One Perfect love" the book is Daniel Morgans story and he was totally besotted by Bella, enough to give up on his first marriage and build a dream one with Bella.  Here's something you will enjoy reading.

9 tricks to knowing if a girl is really interested in you :

1. Does she go out with you on public dates.
2. Is she calling you late night only to use you as an emotional pillow.
3. Don't get stuck in the friendship trap if you are looking for commitment.
4. Give her all the attention but don't give up on your work in the bargain.
5. Is she on a rebound in which case she will go away soon.
6. Are you pushing her into a relationship or have you determined a cosmos connect.
7. Did you determine why your trails crossed for the two of you.
8. What is her reaction to your meeting her friends.
9. Is she planning to make you meet her ex boyfriends.

All that you need is love and all that she is giving you is anything but love, walk away while its still good.

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How to save myself from my marriage

Marriages can be hellish if you haven't understood the need for them.  They are meant to be like a social partnership which is based on fidelity, trust and friendship.  Anyone who is married would want all the three of the above, in the best of marriages, in the ideal scenario, there is no need for any other person in life for both partners.  The live off each other and for each other, an emotional bond that far transcends any other relationship you might have encountered.  In these cases the bond of marriage is reinforced by fidelity and trust and leads to a marriage of soul mates or best friends.

7 steps to a marriage made in heaven :

1.  Depend on each other, always come back to each other unquestionably for support.
2.  Bring out questions that need to be answered in your marriage.
3.  If he or she is your best friend, then treat them as that and not as husband or wife.
4.  Have faith in each others abilities, reinforce what is eroded.
5.  Support each other emotionally, physically and financially.
6.  Always speak out the best of each other.
7.  Aim to become soulmates if you aren't already.

Marriages take a toll on everyone, take time to rejuvenate and save yourself from your marriage.

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How do you nurture a relationship

Getting into relationships is easy enough without the encumbrance of knowing that a relationship also has to be nurtured.  A relationship is like a young tree, requiring water and minerals to grow into a strong bond. Nurturing relationships mean spending time with your girlfriend, getting to know the person she is in totality.

8 ways to nurturing relationships :

1.  Spend time with her.
2.  Think quality time, get to know her.
3.  Talk when you need to, and know that sometimes silence is all knowing.
4.  Do you ever think about what she thinks.
5.  Go on long drives or trips just the two of you.
6.  Go shopping together for items that mean something to both of you.
7.  Get to know her family.
8.  Get in her shoes and know what she struggles with in this world.

Every time you make an attempt to get to know her you are nurturing the relationship.  

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