Synopsis of "One perfect love - Cosmos connect"

Daniel Morgan is adrift till the Cosmos answers him back.

The book “One perfect love – Cosmos connect” is a traverse on the life of Daniel Morgan as his thoughts ponder on his marriage.  As philosophy runs through the book, the conversations take form and it is expounded through the lives of the characters.  Jon Joshi the aggressive go getter who plays the role of Daniel’s God father, and later George Millay, the smiling assassin who takes over the role of mentoring Daniel in his own way, are the bulk of the interactions.  From suave George to overpowering Jon, the book works its way through Daniel’s mind as he tries to get over his God Father who advices him against a second marriage, but Daniel is stubborn as he works on a philosophy called Cosmos Connect for building relationships.

Daniel’s belief in God is very strong but as the book progresses he sides with George and is also pulled into the scientific reasoning that belief in God without science validating it, is worthless.  There are dialogues between him and his best friend Mona Silvia, a God loving woman, as she tries to convince him that God is real and present in our worlds.

Kimberly, Daniel’s wife knows separation is an option as she wants her perfect world to remain intact, Daniel is the one who wants to change something in this world, she sees her world changing and objects immediately.  “You are alone,” she spoke out, “only as long as you want to be.”  And he wondered, did it mean as soon as we stopped wanting to be alone the world would intrude.  “Actually the world comes to me even when I don’t want it to,” Daniel spoke out beseechingly.  If Daniel truly wanted to be alone, he wouldn’t want anyone in it and he doesn’t understand her.  Daniel is left with an option of friends and love on one side and Kimberly on the other.

The philosophy of “Cosmos Connect,” is new and takes the reader through a journey of understanding as to why people make friends and lose them.  It talks of love and how love is a much misunderstood thing, and though love should be accepted as the love between family members, friends and lovers, it’s understanding is confined to lovers and with sexual connotations.  The interactions between Daniel and Jon and George are riveting as Daniel’s path is punctuated by bouts of dreamy philosophy and thought changing philosophy of Cosmos Connect.

Falling in love and making friends are a couple of thoughts being explored as the relationship of love is explored with respect to what the cosmos asks of us.  The Cosmos always chooses the best for us.  It is a delicate balance that the cosmos seeks and most people in modern societies are ill equipped to handle complexity of relationships and make a hash of it.  From making friends and keeping them to Bella’s love for him, we explore Daniel’s mind in all its revelations and sweet memories.

As he grows older Daniel’s hobby turns into a vocation and he becomes a full time wood worker, with a large dedicated workshop.  He is a king of his destiny, his relation with Jon diminishes as George takes over the role of mentor and Mona his best friend remains with him till the end and he lives a fulfilling life.  His two sons Stephen and Andrew grow up to be an army officer and business consultant respectively.  He has lived a full life and is at peace with himself and contemplates when is the best time to leave for his heavenly abode.  He finds a time and loses himself to the Cosmos.

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What's love got to do with it

Money on your mind and any thoughts of love are liable to be left behind.  Love is a great equaliser though and with love in your heart you can over come what a lot of people with money would find it hard to do.

10 ways to explain whats love got to do with it :

1.  Love brings happiness thats ever lasting.
2.  When you down and out, we go to the ones we love.
3.  Love is the bond that nurtures relationships.
4.  Money on your mind and love in your heart.
5.  Without love the mind is lonely.
6.  Love is a much maligned word, it applies to friends, family and lovers.
7.  It is the heart beat of life.
8.  Lovers feel the spring leaves turn green with love.
9.  It is the romance with life.
10.Eternity is achieved with love.

Love on the mind and every hue of life becomes clearer, the shades of money and their implications come to me and it enhances what money can buy.  Every person falls in love or feels the need to fall in love, it is the way of life, love is a word applicable to all our relationships and without it, they may sink.

Also read on this blog : 20 myths about romances

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What do women like on a date

Women are very finicky and the dating experience changes from woman to woman.  It is rare that what one woman wants will be replicated by another.  If that is the case, can we have generic points on what women like on a date.

7 points on what women like on dates :

1.  Their man to smell good.
2.  For him to be sexy and in demand.
3.  Not to be overawed by possessiveness.
4.  Some like their men slim and others fit, still others like them plump.
5.  Dressed to kill.
6.  Great conversation, silence in killing.
7.  Great intimacy.

Dating is a fine game with its delicate points that make one take notice.  Every one wants to be in the game and now you can, knowing these points.

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How to get that date perfect

Perfect dates are about chemistry between the two engagers, if you get the feeling right, dating is a wonderful experience.  Every time you feel for that woman of your dreams, you are taking a step forward towards fulfilling that perfect experience.


10 things to that perfect date :

1.  Looks and conversation are the key.
2.  Charm with your conversation.
3.  There are plenty of deodorants available, pick the one that describes you.
4.  Sex on your mind, ditch it for a smoother version of love.
5.  Petting is fine if she likes you.
6.  Get the right feeling going.
7.  Make an atmosphere, an ambience for her.
8.  Have some icebreakers ready for her.
9.  Visit the barber and the make over shop, your looks could be important.
10.Music and movies, two things that will get you going, search for what she will like.

Looks maybe everything and build your looks, sometimes she looks for conversation, other times its just your planning for the date.

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The ultimate cheat sheet on marriage

Marriages are made in heaven or so I hear very often, it must be that some of them are made in heaven for sure, but what makes marriages work is not the heavenly angelic magic, it is the things that I elucidate below :

15 tips on the ultimate cheat sheet on marriage :

1.  Marriage is about the little things, get them together.
2.  Love is about sacrifices, are you willing to make them.
3.  Is she your best friend, don't treat her like a husband or wife.
4.  Love her parents like she loves yours.
5.  Talk to her, communicate, it eases the burden.
6.  Happy couples resolve their fights amicably.
7.  They work at making their marriage exciting.
8.  She would love you more if she knew how much you love her
9.  All of marriage is a love affair.
10.Your love for your wife can over power any irritants that might be.
11.Give each other gifts to let the other know you hold them in high esteem.
12.Reinforce, if faith in each other has been eroded.
13.Think sweet cuddly love every time you talk to each other.
14.Whenever you have a fight, go back to the blissful past for a resolution.
15.Think positive and you will always leave the negativity behind.

This I will vouch for will take your marriage to the heavenly level.  Also read on this blog - How to save myself from my marriage.  Lets believe !

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Why we love romance (and you should too)

Romances are the essence of life, it sets the soul free and the body invigorated.  It is what makes the heart sing to a tune so merry that even the dead rise to life.  The spring leaves turn to autumn red and the feeling of great romances bring to us that life is forever changing and we have to be in tune with this life.

7 things we love about romances :

1.  Romances bring a pleasant shade to life.
2.  They take us away from the real.
3.  Romances are a prelude to great loves.
4.  Great things happen with romances.
5.  You can feel life spring through you with a romance.
6.  Romances can bring the dead to life.
7.  Make a cripple, walk and a dumb, talk.

Romances bring hope and a freshness that will leave many experiencing it for the first time stunned to it's beauty.  Also read on this blog 20 myths about great romances.

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The ultimate cheat sheet on dating

Who wouldn't want the inside info on dating, and that is what I want to write for you today.  Dating is a social activity that most people love to indulge in, so what do you write in a cheat sheet for dating - the inside tips and the secret best methodologies.

11 points on the ultimate cheat sheet on dating :

1.  A perfect date is like a symphony, plan for it.
2.  Did you get the menu right.
3.  Did you prepare to pay the concierge a small tip.
4.  Have a few lines always ready in your head.
5.  Let there not be a dull moment.
6.  Let her talk, fill in the silence.
7.  Always play the rating game mentally, rate every action of yours on a scale of 10.
8.  Try to build in seriousness in the conversation, talk about feelings - yours.
9.  Build in humour on cue, sometimes we have it and other times we prepare for humorous lines.
10.Do you keep a diary of events, if you don't start maintaining one for dating.
11.Remember to aim for perfection.

Don't overdo any of the items on your list, dating is an enjoyable activity, learn to enjoy while you engage in it.

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The worst things you have heard about marriage

Marriages are made in heaven, so say many a people, and it would seem there are contradictory opinions to this.  "Thoughts come flying," she says and he thinks it's the same, they have been married for 5 years and say, "The honeymoon period just got over."  That's when the harsh realities hit them and they start to think of the worst things about marriage.

7 worst things you have heard about marriage :

1.  It is a commercial partnership.
2.  It kills a persons intellect.
3.  You don't know what it feels to be married to an obnoxious person.
4.  It can't be only about kids.
5.  It isn't the free sex, is it.
6.  What can it solve for the world.
7.  Except maybe add to the population of the world.

These are the worst things I have heard about marriage tonight and I wonder as I have wondered often enough, when and why does the romance go out of married life.  Is it when the smaller things we have to do for each other take their effect on our lives, or is it when we stop loving each other, when ever it happens, we lose the love in our lives and start to look outwards towards the world for an answer not realising that marriages have to be worked out.  As a first premise it has to be figured out what is the purpose of marriage, and the rest follows.

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How to have a serious conversation with your date

Having a serious conversation about your feelings with your date will require a studious diligence to how to approach the topic of feelings.  It isn't easy knowing that sometimes when we date casually, the question of serious talk never even occurs to us.  Mostly we are busy with the idea of sex, not knowing that behind us there is a whole legion of conversation that might require to be spoken before trust can be established in the relationship.

7 ways to have a serious conversation on your feelings with your date :

1.  Begin by a small introduction to the real you.
2.  Talk to communicate, know that every one might not want to seriously talk feelings.
3.  Lead the conversation around serious topics like boyfriend-girlfriend relations, mom-dad relations, friends and how to keep them, drug and alcohol abuse etc.
4.  Intersperse the topic with humour, you can tell a joke can't you !
5.  Be open and honest about yourself.
6.  Love the person sitting opposite to you, accept them for who they are.
7.  Don't give opinions but build acceptance.

Once the conversation begins you will begin to enjoy it, even know that there is no end to it, it is a supreme intellectual bliss to know that you and your date are talking about things that older folks may hardly get an opportunity to talk about.

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How to solve the biggest problem with your marriage

If your marriage has run into rough weather, its most likely that the little little things have led to a larger problem.  Marriage is run on the little things and if you haven't done the little things well, that most likely is the cause of the problem, which looks unsurmountable, that you face right now.  Solving the biggest problem will take time and indeed may even require a marriage counsellor to help you, but the first step is to acknowledge that there is a problem

14 steps to solving the biggest problem with your marriage :

1.  Acknowledge that there is a problem.
2.  Sit together with each others list of worries.
3.  Try and solve the others list independently.
4.  Involve a marriage counselor if possible.
5.  From the each others list identify the biggest problem in your marriage.
6.  There is a solution for everything.
7.  Find the solution to this problem as well.
8.  Though each of the little niggles will find a solution.
9.  It is the biggest problem you are trying to solve.
10.Once identified, attack it.
11.It may turn out you both may have identified more than one big problem.
12.Don't try to merge them into one big problem.
13.Brainstorm to get to a solution.
14.Remember its your marriage, compromise and cajole yourself to a solution.

Finding a solution will require brainstorming and working together, certain problems will present a solution to them over a period of time.  Working together, and probably with a marriage counsellor, will improve both your dispositions, remember that it is important to know that both of you need a solution.

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How to start dating (again)

So you have finally made the move, you have decided you should get into dating, "Wasn't that easy," you would think, "Once you have made a decision," it is a question of finding the right girl.  "How do I find the right girl," you ask and land up on this blog.  Dating is a social activity everybody indulges in or would like to indulge in, even in countries it is frowned upon, and if it is a social activity, here's how we go about it.

7 ways to start dating again :

1.  Start by changing your wardrobe.
2.  Get into social groups that encourage dating, both online and offline.
3.  Find the person of your dreams.
4.  Don't come on too strong, start by casual dating.
5.  Think love not sex.
6.  Even if you don't find the person of your dream, don't let it discourage you.
7.  Read on this blog "How to find the person you could love."

Wonder if you will thank me if you find the right girl to date,  this is a simple 7 step guide to starting to date again.  Follow it and you won't fail.

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10 signs you should be dating (again)

Are you in the middle of a relationship breakdown and are looking to make a fresh start somewhere else.  Girlfriends are easy to find if you could just start dating again, if you wondering where to start, thats precisely where you would need to begin, by dating again.  "I couldn't do this," often heard, "again," most say, "Not this soon," well if you are wondering, there is no such thing as "this soon," its about building your confidence and trust in your ability to have fun.

10 signs that you should be dating :

1.  Are you talking more to your mother than any other women.
2.  Do your memories overwhelm you, it might be time to start building new ones.
3.  Don't worry about being on the rebound, not everything is romantically linked.
4.  Sometimes we just prefer to hang out with women.
5.  Are you swamped by work and hating it.
6.  Do you miss the company of a woman.
7.  Do you get jealous seeing your male friends with their female companions.
8.  Are your male friends beginning to hook you up with someone or other.
9.  Do you feel like going out but don't, because you are alone.
10.Dating can make you feel enervated, don't miss out on it.

Getting back into the dating scene requires you to be prepared for it, the above points should point you in the right direction.

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6 romance mistakes that are costing you big

So here you are, in the romance of your life and you forget to read this article, is there something you doing that is killing it.  Romance is the "love of life," and when two people share it, towards similar things in life, it brings a freshness like the morning dew on leaves, and like the glistening of sunshine on the dew it will further accentuate your love life.

6 common romance mistakes that could cost you big :

1.  Are you talking behind her back.
2.  Are you forgetting to dream and love together.
3.  Are you not giving love time and rushing into sex.
4.  You are not seeing the signs that your partner is emanating.
5.  Romance requires that you hold each other in high esteem.
6.  Romance doesn't require nudges and hints, instead it is very open in its outlook.

With these common mistakes covered, it could be only a matter of time before you hit it high in love and romance.

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Think you are cut out for marriage

I thought so too, and I hadn't written the article then, marriage is a committed relationship and requires love and caring from both sides.  So here I was riding my white horse, thinking I was ready for marriage, "till the horse said it was a mule," and the prince charming in me turned into an ordinary person, trying to make a good thing out of marriage.  Marriages are run on money and earning money was one of the prerogatives, the rules were different from the one's I had envisaged and yet I trudged along.

10 things to consider before getting married :

1.  What can't you give up after marriage, you probably will have to give it up.
2.  Are you willing to make sacrifices, love is about sacrifices.
3.  Part of your social life would have to be given up now that you are committed.
4.  Social dating is very different from committed marriage.
5.  It is based on idealistic love.
6.  You would have to think of supporting children based on your partners preferences.
7.  What is yours now may not be so later after you get married.
8.  Its the little things that make a difference in marriage.
9.  Like dumping garbage, picking up groceries, picking your baby from school.
10.These little things have to be completed before you dream the romance of your life.

It's great if the number match up after the above things to considered and you certainly are made for marriage.

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20 myths about great romances

If you are like the rest of us and have grown up seeing movies that hollywood churns out, turning romances into mushy tear jerkers while we wait for our prince charming and princesses, it's time to realise that things are not what they seem to be.  For every single sucker there is a myth about romance waiting to be busted.

20 myths about great romances :

1.  Finding the right partner completes the love and romance.
2.  Soul mates are meant to meet and marry.
3.  Eat drink and pray love is all you need.
4.  I will know if I am infatuated or in love.
5.  She will love you no matter what.
6.  She will accept you as you are, without demanding any changes
7.  Love and marriage complement each other.
8.  You will love her ever after without any extra effort being made.
9.  The moment you are unhappy in romance, she will ask you why.
10.The cosmos will stop giving you choices better suited to your profile.
11.Marriages grow better with time.
12.Growing old with the woman of your dream.
13.If love is what you give, it will come around to you from the same person.
14.Good sex will not play a huge part in your romance.
15.What if there is a knight in shining armour.
16.If you love someone set them free.
17.Love is blind.
18.Romance has nothing to do with physical appearances.
19.Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
20.There is nothing logical about love.

If you find a myth that is holding you back, get out and take a rain check on it.

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5 advantages of living my life

Relationships cause strife in humans, where normally they would be pleasant, amiable human beings, being in a relationship immediately changes the perspective of the person.  From trite pleasantness to rude indifference I have seen everything with so called friends, they have changed colours and changed again, when they needed me back.  "Isn't for nothing," its said, "If you love someone set them free," and of course if they come back, they might want to stay or go off again.  "My hearts a guest house," some would say, and correctly so, there are many exits from here but only one entrance, this way I always know who enters.

The doorman to my heart is a tearful soul, the only question he would ask someone entering back is, "Why are you back ?" and if you are smart enough you would answer, "Because I want to be back in his life," and the doorman would go off in tearful fits asking you to etch my name on his forearm and leave you wondering if perhaps he also was a lost soul who left me to come back and join me permanently

I have my own advantages amongst which included are :

1.  Give you studied privacy.
2.  Limited opinion giving.
3.  Contrived interest if you are not interested.
4.  Space to conduct your business.
5.  Space to grow into a human being.

I couldn't resist the urge to giving the pointers, so used to I have become writing everything in points, as I strive to become an authority on human relationships.  From father, mother to son and daughters and wife, husband, I have seen them all and seen them grow to perfection within my small life.

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Is silence good for your relationship

Silence does everything the opposite of communication - it kills relations, it complicates, it causes pain and anger and is the single most important relationship killer.  When we are in a relationship, we must learn to talk and more importantly communicate our desires, frustrations, wants and needs, talking helps these things come out.

7 reasons silence is not good for a relationship :

1.  Silence can be stifling in a relationship.
2.  Silence kills more relationships than does shouting.
3.  Are you silent thinking it will tide over the problem.
4.  Silence affects your health as you suppress emotions, could even lead to cancer.
5.  Talking eases the burden of the problem for both parties concerned.
6.  Keep tab of why and when you were silent in a disagreement.
7.  It will help analyse if your personality is killing a relation you are in.

If one is in a relationship in which the partner is encouraging silence, it is best to come out of it because silence will kill it anyhow.  A dominating personality is no reason to keep silent, for talk we must.

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Are you a successful dating person

Dating is a social game that all humans indulge in or would like to indulge in, it is a precursor to larger things, in some cases marriage itself.  Here are 7 pointers to finding out if you are a successful at dating most of the times and what constitutes a successful date.


7 pointers that say that you are successful dating person :

1.  Does she tell you every time after the date that it was good.
2.  You rarely need ice breakers, you are comfortable talking.
3.  Your partner hardly notices the location, you are so good at making her feel comfortable.
4.  You rate yourself every time without any other motivation but to find out how good you are.
5.  You have never rated yourself less than 8/10.
6.  Word gets around that you are good.
7.  You decide the places. locations, food cuisine etc before the date, you believe in planning.

You need a good date for your self esteem, go for it.

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How to keep success in marriage going

Keeping marriage going is an activity that requires careful analysis of the successful points, though it would be fair to say that too much of analysis could be detrimental to the success of your marriage.  Marriage is a combination of big as well as a lot of smaller successes, it will be the smaller points that will make your life a whole lot easier when it comes to married life.  Make the smaller things count, do the small things, pick up the garbage, drop your baby to school, pick up the groceries etc. - it's the smaller things that are a precursor to rekindling romance.

14 steps to keeping success in marriage going :

1.  When analysing success in marriage, attack it like a business problem.
2.  Repeat successful steps
3.  Success in marriage is an emotional victory.
4.  Don't get too carried away with the business analysis.
5.  Small successes matter, aim for smaller ones.
6.  Small successes are big things in marriage.
7.  The big things come once in a while.
8.  Go back into the past to evolve successful strategies for the present.
9.  Never revisit a resolved past.
10.Success in marriage is a family activity.
11.Love her parents just as she loves yours.
12.Make friends with her friends, its a mutual agreement.
13.Sacrifice in love, marriage is about love.
14.Remember Jesus was love himself.

Loving your wife and marriage is God's work, every single step that you take towards a successful marriage is fulfilling your promise to God.

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How to get over that first failure when dating

Failures can be plenty while dating, the immediate concern is to getting over that first failure.  It can have an affect on the morale of the person and is important to understand that it is not a reflection on you as a person, but just the way life is sometimes.


7 cool ways to getting over first failure when dating :

1.  Ensure you remain with a good outlook for the future.
2.  Let your self confidence speak for itself.
3.  Know that a failure in dating is not a reflection on you.
4.  Don't analyse, just go for the second date.
5.  Keep your cool, do not get obsessive.
6.  Learn some cool ice breakers.
7.  Learn to know when a girls interested in you.

Dating can be fun, get these cool tips to keep moving.

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How to get over failure

Failures are a part of life and though you might think you have had enough of failures, you never know when that brand of success will start sticking to you.  A trail of successes make for some heady thoughts and to bring them on, we first have to get over the thoughts of failure and know that success is waiting around the corner.

7 ways to get over failure :

1.  Think positive and think of the times when you had it going like a breeze.
2.  Work everyday towards a goal.
3.  Plan your day and routine your time.
4.  Work to meet people who give you a sense of success.
5.  Imbibe success in every activity of yours.
6.  Think of failures as a stepping stone to success.
7.  Success will come to you despite or inspite of repeated failures, its the way of life.

Be positive from the word go, your mornings should be ripe with positivity and the evenings even more so, as you look at successes however small they might be.

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How to mend your relationships

Relationships are built on give and take, and as a person who is mending them, it is important for you to give in the first place.  Give your relations the space and time that they require from you, every relationship has a time space zone within which it operates, if you give them the love and care they need, they will come back to you every time you want them to.

7 ways to mend your relationships :

1.  Start calling your relationships regularly.
2.  Comment and like on social media on their posts.
3.  Visit them regularly in the physical world.
4.  Be there for the relations when they need you.
5.  Wish birthdays and anniversaries.
6.  Help the relations in their everyday life
7.  Always be the one they remember.


Always look to mend your relationships, nothing works like friends and family being there for you when you want them.  The same thought works vice versa too.

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How to keep your relationships from sinking

In the modern society relationships keep breaking up and cracking up as people forget to oil them.  Also work schedules leave very little for our personal relationships as we tend to ignore them.  With the modern man running after success, relationships get left far behind, even as it gets harder to forge new bonds, crisscrossing of trails give us an opportunity to make new relationships but who has the time.

10 ways to keep your relationships from sinking :

1.  Keep the conversation going.

2.  Keep the love fire burning.

3.  Do for others what they do for you, love them for who they are.

4.  Be sensitive to the needs of others, some require more love than the others.

5.  Be there for people when they need you, in financial and medical emergencies.

6.  Keep them in the know of your intent, where are you coming from.

7.  Be sure you oil the flame regularly, talk to people regularly.

8.  Keep your loved ones in the loop, so that they know the real you.

9.  Live more off the social media than on it, its a real world out there.

10.Call up regularly, nothing beats talking.

Crisscross of trails affords the largest opportunity in the modern world, as peoples trails crisscross for them to forge new friendships.

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