Myths about happy marriages

Marriages are made in heaven and here I present to you myths that you would have never heard of before, all marriages have similar problems, its not the problems but how you tackle the problems that determine the fate of a marriage.  Very often not knowing what a happy marriage is like can lead to discrepancy in our married life, when one is envious of the other couple for having a happy married life.


9 myths about happy marriages :

1.  Happy couples never fight.
2.  They never talk bad about their spouses.
3.  They never squeal about their spouses.
4.  In a happy marriage, the roles of the partners reverse over time, so that they get to see each others point of view.
5.  Number of fights is inversely proportional to happiness in marriage.
6.  The partners hold each others parents in high esteem.
7.  Happy couples never work at making their marriage exciting.
8.  Happy couples never have to work on being nice to each other.
9.  They never have to give gifts to each other and compliment each other.

A happy marriage is about being best friends to each other, over a period of time this relationship develops into a soul mate.

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What to give her on her birthday

Birthdays come and go, if that perfect gift is not found for the person of your dreams.  A gift makes a birthday special and remembered, many people oft say, "That gift was given on my 45th birthday," to remember who gave them that gift that made the birthday special.  For her birthday, you have to give her something subtle and yet something that stands out.  Remember it is not about the cost, but what will click with her as the gift she wants, here I present a range of gifts to bring a smile onto her face.


6 gifts for her on her birthday :

1.  A bouquet of handpicked flowers - roses, lilies and orchids, along with a box of Lindt chocolate. - Rs 5000
2.  Sony headphones for her Apple laptop - Rs 4500
3.  Rustic carved wooden heart dish - Rs 2500
4.  Bespoke Post Brut box - Bubbly, champagne sabre and two glasses - Rs 4000
5.  MVMT Gold/Peach Leather watch - Rs 8000
6.  Marc Jacobs Daisy Perfume - Rollerball trio   Rs 4000


Choose from the perfect gift above and make her day a special one.

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How do you end a committed relationship

Ending a relationship is never easy, be it a committed one or a non committal one, what may, it might be asked, be the status of the people when they wouldn't mind ending a relationship.  Obviously in a non committal relationships, both the people involved know that there couldn't be a legitimate societal end to it and that they are in it only for fun.  Even then it is difficult to end, as one of the party might think it is the aggrieved one and decide to prolong it further.  A committed relationship is much harder to end and requires careful consideration of facts and opinions.


7 ways to end a committed relationship :

1.  Tell her how it is on her face, not the best option but an honest one at that.
2.  Use your work as the yardstick to determine the scale of damage if you left her now.
3.  Use the Cosmos connect to find out what is best for her and tell her as is.
4.  Solve her love life and choose to leave after the most accepted solution presents itself.
5.  The cosmos is forever determining the best matches for us based on our current situation and it will for her too.
6.  A bad patch in the relationship may not necessary mean an end to it.
7.  You are the best judge of the situation.

A committed relationship ending doesn't mean the end of life, though it may rank as pretty close to that.

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How to get over a broken heart

A derailed love affair is not hard to imagine especially if you haven't seen each other for a long while.  Broken hearts tend to hurt more if we don't get into the act of finding out why it happened the way it happened.  It could be that she was to blame more than you or the other way around but mending the heart is a tough job.  Some hearts mend, others bleed for a while.


10 ways to getting over a broken heart :
1.  Engross yourself in work.
2.  Make new friends and meet new people.
3.  Get into a hobby you love.
4.  Don't stalk the past love.
5.  Evolve from a jealous mammal to a mature mammal.
6.  Don't question how it happened, find out why it happened.
7.  Don't get into another relationship on the rebound.
8.  Strengthen your existing family ties.
9.  A strong family bond makes it easier to come out of a heartache.
10.Use the cosmos correction methodology to find out why it happened.

Remove yourself from the situation after apportioning your part in the derailed love affair and walk away peacefully, knowing that you have done the right thing.

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How to make up after a fight

Sometimes fight start over a few words and go on for what seems like forever.  Daniel Morgan and Bella Joel fought over seemingly a trivial issue and didn't see each other for 6 months.  "One perfect love," is a perfect demonstration of the fact that most fight issues will seem trivial after a period of time.  It's the love that brings us back to each other, and maybe a separation does us good too.  Daniel and Bella got married with their love vows reinforced.

14 points on how to make up after a fight :

1.  You can't act normal after a fight, know it happened.
2.  Are you trying to make up, then go for things she likes.
3.  A kiss and hug goes a long way in making up.
4.  So you think you don't understand her, well nobody is a mind reader.
5.  The right kind of food after a fight goes a long way.
6.  Have a blissful dessert, the both of you.
7.  Sometimes fights have an unending cycle, know that not all fights can be resolved the same day.
8.  Go back to the blissful past for resolution.
9.  What was the fight about.
10.Give in, when you can.
11.Fight to get the fight out of your head.
12.Think positive and leave the negativity behind.
13.Communicate not just talk.
14.All relationships have fights involved, learn to get over them.

Fights are part of a relationship between a man and woman because they think differently.  As a matter of fact, when I create characters for fiction, I have to think about both my male and female readers, they like different things in male and female characters.  It's a tough balancing act as is the resolution of a fight.

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What is the cosmos connect

Cosmos connect and correction mode are two terms from the book "One perfect love" and the book talks about it in more details.  However for understanding, it is enough to say that the cosmos is always working to correct wrongs and make it the perfect world.  If you have never been in love or have been in love with the wrong person, it will determine the right person for you based on your current status and point out the person to you.  It is left to you to make the move on this love that could be so vast that it would diminish all your current paradigms to nothing.

7 ways to know you are connected to the Cosmos :

1.  Is your work pointing out the person who you should love.
2.  Are you able to solve the love life of the one you love through your work.
3.  Have you been able to determine where the trails criss crossed.
4.  The Cosmos always works in correction mode.
5.  By solving things you are working with the Cosmos in correction mode.
6.  Are you able to connect to her likes and dislikes now.
7.  Is the cosmos telling you that she could be your soulmate.

The world in correction mode is the reality of the Cosmos, from environment bullying to world wars, everything is corrected here.

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How to find the person you could love

Finding that one perfect love is a task that requires maturity and wisdom.  Maturity because it doesn't mean to party hop or be too desperate and wisdom because it requires the Cosmos to be on your side. On the flip side you might be just lonely and not really looking for someone to love but to talk.  Know what love is and go for it when the Cosmos tells you the time is right.

12 ways to find the person you could love :

1.  Look in the right places, you are looking for love not a fling.
2.  Common interests and aims should guide you.
3.  Take up hobby classes, more chances of finding the one of your dreams.
4.  Be social, go to events and occasions, more probability of finding that one.
5.  Be active on social media, communicate.
6.  Know that sex and love are not the same thing.
7.  Is the cosmos asking you to look for the person.
8.  If you have found the person, connect to her dreams and aspirations.
9.  Take the next step of realising why and how you met.
10.Solve the past love life of the woman of your dreams.
11.Everybody has a past, don't get overawed by the task, redeem it to your benefit.
12.Know that your one perfect love is within your grasp.

Knowing that the Cosmos is on your side and guiding you in making the choice is the surest sign that you can get.  Signs can be misleading and daunting in trying to figure out, don't be mislead into something which is not your cup of tea.  Remember that you are looking for love and will find it.

  

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How to know if a girl is really interested in you

In her perseverance to win him over, Bella came over as too strong, "One Perfect love" the book is Daniel Morgans story and he was totally besotted by Bella, enough to give up on his first marriage and build a dream one with Bella.  Here's something you will enjoy reading.

9 tricks to knowing if a girl is really interested in you :

1. Does she go out with you on public dates.
2. Is she calling you late night only to use you as an emotional pillow.
3. Don't get stuck in the friendship trap if you are looking for commitment.
4. Give her all the attention but don't give up on your work in the bargain.
5. Is she on a rebound in which case she will go away soon.
6. Are you pushing her into a relationship or have you determined a cosmos connect.
7. Did you determine why your trails crossed for the two of you.
8. What is her reaction to your meeting her friends.
9. Is she planning to make you meet her ex boyfriends.

All that you need is love and all that she is giving you is anything but love, walk away while its still good.

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How to save myself from my marriage

Marriages can be hellish if you haven't understood the need for them.  They are meant to be like a social partnership which is based on fidelity, trust and friendship.  Anyone who is married would want all the three of the above, in the best of marriages, in the ideal scenario, there is no need for any other person in life for both partners.  The live off each other and for each other, an emotional bond that far transcends any other relationship you might have encountered.  In these cases the bond of marriage is reinforced by fidelity and trust and leads to a marriage of soul mates or best friends.

7 steps to a marriage made in heaven :

1.  Depend on each other, always come back to each other unquestionably for support.
2.  Bring out questions that need to be answered in your marriage.
3.  If he or she is your best friend, then treat them as that and not as husband or wife.
4.  Have faith in each others abilities, reinforce what is eroded.
5.  Support each other emotionally, physically and financially.
6.  Always speak out the best of each other.
7.  Aim to become soulmates if you aren't already.

Marriages take a toll on everyone, take time to rejuvenate and save yourself from your marriage.

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How do you nurture a relationship

Getting into relationships is easy enough without the encumbrance of knowing that a relationship also has to be nurtured.  A relationship is like a young tree, requiring water and minerals to grow into a strong bond. Nurturing relationships mean spending time with your girlfriend, getting to know the person she is in totality.

8 ways to nurturing relationships :

1.  Spend time with her.
2.  Think quality time, get to know her.
3.  Talk when you need to, and know that sometimes silence is all knowing.
4.  Do you ever think about what she thinks.
5.  Go on long drives or trips just the two of you.
6.  Go shopping together for items that mean something to both of you.
7.  Get to know her family.
8.  Get in her shoes and know what she struggles with in this world.

Every time you make an attempt to get to know her you are nurturing the relationship.  

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Are you a creative writer

Creations can be works of God and creators are messengers of God.  Without going into the nitty gritty of Godly behaviour, in this post I will try and elucidate the steps in finding if you are a creative writer.  If it were up to us we would classify all messengers as creative, however if I may dare suggest this might not be the case, simply because there might not be any need for your writing to be creative.  Creative writing is more a bursting of horizons of a writer, "albeit with a touch of salt," I say, maybe creativity in writing is overhyped.

7 ways to identify if you are a creative writer :

1.  Do you go according to a script, this is the first step to creativity.
2.  Character building is the essence.
3.  Write the plot on a piece of paper and analyse it, change it, analyse it and finalise it.
4.  Identify your style, can you build sarcasm, drift or velocity into your book.
5.  Do you get lost in your own characters.
6.  What is the single most influential piece in your book and how did you write it.
7.  Plot, sequence, scene and script, thats the way to analyse your creativity as a writer.

Build it and certainly write your own pieces again and again, creative pieces are best source of entertainment in a book.

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How to unleash your creativity

Creativity is proportional to your environment, some environments are more creativity than others.  To bring about an upsurge of creativity, it is important to realise that our talents don't necessary bring on creativity.  To bring about a harmonious amalgamation of talent and creativity we must bring a change within our purpose, to look at life from a perspective that is Godly.

5 ways to unleash your creativity :

1.  Volunteer to work in museums, art galleries etc.
2.  Learn to appreciate art.
3.  Create a time schedule where arts purpose and your desires meet in the same plane.
4.  Not everybody is talented and yet they could be creative.
5.  Set time out to read, write and appreciate.

We can get an environment that has creativity inherent, go for the points above.

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The most romantic things to write home about

It's a beautiful day and the Sun rose to its peak, the heat percolates down to our bodies, it's beautiful as the Sun stays up to give the day it's beauty.  What is it about a sunny day that we so love, its the romance of knowing that our star, the Sun will be up another day to let us dream of things that are so eternal.

6 most romantic things to write about :

1.  A sunset in New Hampshire, with the sun setting behind the mountains by a lake.
2.  A chess game on a wooden chessboard between a strategist and a maverick.
3.  A laze on a deck chair with the Sun playing hide and seek behind the clouds.
4.  A sit out in a row boat gently floating to the waves.
5.  Hair blowing in a gentle breeze with the Sun in full bloom.
6.  Growing old by the side of a woman who you love.

Romance in the air, and the roses bloom to a million sunsets.

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Ways to enjoy the museums in Washington DC

Washington DC is the Delhi of USA, the place is replete with memorials and museums.  The National Arts Museum, The National History Museum, The Air and Space Museum amongst the others are the best places to visit.  The museum visit is a day time job (8am to 5:30pm) and the air-conditioning in the museums takes care of the hot days.

6 ways to enjoy museums in DC :

1.  Dress for a walk, the museums are within walkable distance.
2.  Don't forget to pick up the brochures and the floor maps.
3.  The Arts museum is spread over two buildings, be prepared to walk and enjoy.
4.  Refreshment stalls are available everywhere, eat when you get time.
5.  Spend adequate time in each museum, might mean you would have to come the next day.
6.  The audio tours are also incredible.

The museums are phenomenal, but the National Arts museum is out of the world, spend at least 4 days in Washington DC, the museums will take enough of your time for you to keep coming back.  They are a vast repository of information displayed in an absolutely fantastic format. 

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The best way to enjoy your USA trip

The USA is a big country to traverse, you will find a 15 day plan woefully short, and a months plan ideal.  Though there is something for everyone, it would make sense to travel by bus if you are on a shoe string budget,  bus rides are great and give a sense of the scenery.  Airplanes are, if you are short of time as you would be on a 15 day trip while on a longer trail time, you could have a mixture of bus, train and aeroplane travel.


5 ways to enjoy USA :

1.  Plan plan plan in advance.
2.  Plan for 4 days at Washington DC, the museums are overwhelmingly good.
3.  2 days at New York.
4.  If you don't have time, take one coast at a time, say East and do the West coast the next time.
5.  Stay with a relative if possible, make that location your home base.

The USA is a great place to be, enjoy it in all its totality.

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How to save your marriage

Often enough we find the key to marriage is in finding that one point that works for us.   A bad marriage can be saved by listening to what we can chart out for ourselves  Bad marriages are a result of no or bad communication over years and the only way to get rid of that tag is to start communicating.  If you have ever seen or been in a bad marriage,  you would know that nothing easy and after years of neglect it takes effort to build a relationship again

7 ways to save your marriage :

1.  Talk and communicate.
2.  Love her or him for who they are.
3.  Why give up when you have your mother in-law with you.
4.  Think of all the good times you have had together.
5.  Think of what it will take to build a new relationship to the same level.
6.  Your love can overpower the last of irritants.
7.  Your marriage is your haven, don't give it up.

Marriages are made to last and so will yours.

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Ways to impress your mother in-law

Your relationship with your mother in-law is very precious, its the cornerstone on which your marriage possibly sits.  If it takes a pound to make a relation it is doubly hard to make your relationship work with your mother in-law.  One she is going to be hard to impress and two she has the upper hand in the relationship unless you go all out to impress her.

7 ways to impress your mother in-law :

1.  Show her you care and involve her in your activities.

2.  Cook for her.

3.  Talk to her, communicate with her.

4.  Take her out for parties and occasions.

5.  Show respect for her husband and her.

6.  She could be your best friend.

7.  Remember this is a special relationship.

Impress your mother in-law and have a happy married life.

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hate your wife : 10 reasons to think positively

So you are in an estranged marriage, where it takes most of your time when you get home to just get to bed.  Its hard under normal circumstances but you have a particularly difficult thing happening in your life.  You hate your wife and don't know how to get out of the situation.  Every second you are thinking of getting out of the relationship but something holds you back.  It isn't the nicest thing to know that you hate your wife, here are some reasons to think otherwise.

7 reasons to think positively :

1.  Think of your children.
2.  Your wife would love you if she knew how much you love her.
3.  Your wife could be your anchor if you talk to her, communicate.
4.  Have you thought of taking leaves to go for a holiday.
5.  You could build a hobby together.
6.  Could you be already thinking of another relationship, DON'T.
7.  All of marriage is a love affair, think easy and go easy if the ship seems to be sinking.

Marriages are made to last and so don't give up.

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How to take time off for guests

Guests are part of the activity schedule for any family, sometimes they are here all planned and other times it wouldn't be as planned, an impromptu travel plan or an emergency.  Either ways it is important to devote time to them.

4 ways to take time off for guests :

1.  Apply for leave in advance.
2.  Keep your time schedule open, leave early for work and work half day.
3.  Work in the late evenings instead of during the day.
4.  Work overtime in the days before the guests arrive.

Not everyone can take a day off for guests, sometimes we just have to do the best we can by adjusting our time schedules.

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How to make friends and keep them

Friendship and bonds, talks and walks, relationships that keep us going in a modern civilisation, when all else looks doomed I still need friends to talk to, best friends are for good.  In all the talk of success and fame, what is to be realised is the importance of good friends.

Some people make good friends but lose them, a few make them and keep them for good.  Even luckier are those who have a best friend in their lives and of course some get to marry their best friends.

9 steps to making friends and keeping them :

1.  Learn the Cosmos connect philosophy.
2.  The time to make friends is when trails crisscross.
3.  Also make friends from philosophies that compliment each other.
4.  That ways you get to keep the friends too.
5.  Make friends based on identification when trails crisscross.
6.  Loves are based on solutions you give to her past loves.
7.  Friendships become stronger with understanding.
8.  Allow relationships to understand the trail they are on.
9.  Once they do, the friends, best friends, loves or soulmates are yours forever.

Make friends and keep them forever, read the book "One perfect love."

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How to get into Harvard

Harvard is the One perfect world if ever we envisaged one.   It is the epitome of educational, moral, public administration and artistic as well as engineering excellence.  Walk down the hallowed corridors and the first thing you note is the absolute ease with which people interact with outsiders.  A  Nobel Prize holder might for example be hobnobbing with the ordinary, the ease with which they do it is simply incredible.  In other places they might develop airs but not at Harvard, where its just a normal days work.

5 steps to getting into Harvard :

1.  Intelligence and hard work.
2.  Sacrifice friends and family for a larger goal.
3.  The habit of reading and writing, read at least 2 books a week and write a paper a fortnight.
4.  Laser focus.
5.  Everybody who is somebody from presidents to supreme court judges have been to Harvard.

Harvard or Stanford, its hard enough for anybody, but once you have achieved it,  you are done in life.

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How do you know your dog loves you

Dogs have over centuries been bred to like and love humans.  So the incessant wagging of tail, the yelps when they see you could all be because of breeding.  For hundreds of years dogs like Labrador, German Shepherd etc have been bred so as to encourage all genes in them that allow them to love humans and eliminate all others that are detrimental to humans.

4 signs that your dog really loves you :

1.  Does your dog go for the food leftover in the kitchen or you when it has been out.
2.  Does your dog wait for you even you take him out for a walk.
3.  Does your dog kiss you on his own with no initiation by you.
4.  Dogs are conditioned to love you, only some really love you.

Find the dog that best suits your personality, Labrador, German Shepherd, Maltese or Beagle or any other.

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The signs of an illicit love affair

When a person is going through an illicit love affair, there are telltale signs of it.  The obvious signs are there for everybody to see if they care to and make their judgement on it.  An illicit love affair is an affair out of marriage and as it is obvious to one that leaves a guilt complex.

7 signs of an illicit love affair :

1.  Dreamy look.
2.  Thoughts that drift away on the mention of certain words.
3.  Hiding mobile phone.
4.  Hiding conversations and places that one has been to.
5.  A guilt complex that is hard to hide.
6.  Looking at people with suspicion, what do they know.
7.  All love affairs have a charm, for the world likes to know whats going on.

Danny Morgan was having an illicit love affair, in "One perfect love," and he was suspicious of everyone including his best friend.  Nobody was told about it not even his best friend.

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What makes fiction novels work

People want to hear about good things, they want happy endings not sob stories.  Fiction novels work when the characters in the novel are made to talk by the author,  when the reader emotes with the characters and gets into the life of each character.

6 steps to making fiction novels work :

1.  All fiction is a fantasy.
2.  Create characters in such a way that when a character that the reader emotes well with goes the morally wrong way, it should give the reader a headache.
3.  All the nightmares in the novel have already been taken care of by the author.
4.  The reader gets to enjoy the good things in the novel.
5.  Scenes that are important in the fiction novel have actually happened in real life.
6.  Write fiction like its linked to reality in certain ways.

Breaking the hype about fiction I worked on my first book, "One Perfect love," and found that if you used the above methodology, the fiction could be categorised as a Classic.  To write a classic, don't think money, think book and think write.

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How to return a Television purchased on Costco

Once you have made a purchase, though didn't like the product, you send Amazon a mail or call them explaining why you want to return the television. If it was a 75" television as was the case with me, it would have incurred a huge cost and if you didn't like it, you might as well exchange it for something better.

11 steps to returning a 75" television

1.  Fix up an appointment for return or exchange.
2.  Get the manual out so that you know exactly what came with the television.
3.  Gather the parts inventory and box them.
4.  Remove the screws on the foot of the television and box the feet, there should be 2 of them.
5.  If a sound bar and sub woofer came with the television box them.
6.  Hopefully you have stored the boxes for each part when the television had arrived.
7.  Carry the television to its carton, be sure you have 3-4 strong males holding the television.
8.  Slide the thermocoal packing on to the television.
9.  Once the thing is packed in the white thermocoal, slide the carton over the television.
10.Once done tape the cardboard carton to avoid slippages.
11.Sit back, drink coffee or tea,  have a swim and wait for the pickup.

Now enjoy the new television you have in exchange.

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How to get over depression

Most people in the society encounter depression in some form or the other.  Depression is the result of broken relationships, loneliness and bad karma.  Friendships are broken, kins go away and in most societies this has serious ramifications.

Sameer was a regular guy, a topper in architecture and doing well, went into depression and has been under sedation for 5 years in a rehabilitation centre trying to etch out a life where there is nothing now.  Similarly Swati has been at the rehabilitation institute for 2 years now, trying to get out but no source of occupation and still on sedatives.

Most depressions if untreated, go deeper into other diseases like schizophrenia and bipolar disorders.

7 ways to get over depression :

1.  Figure out a work routine that gives you pleasure.
2.  Take up a hobby that you love.
3.  Say no to alcohol, drugs and smokes.
4.  Take up an adventure sport.
5.  Cook and eat good food.
6.  Tell yourself everyday, your life is important.
7.  Take medication.

Depression is a suicidal state of mind, get over it.

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How to create an ambience for your house guests

Whenever guests come into our lives there are two feelings to it, first why are they here and second great to have them here.  Guests are because people love to travel and when accommodation is scarce or expensive, it becomes natural to stay with people they know.  It is a symbiotic relation, you scratch my back and I scratch yours.

9 steps to create an ambience for your guests :

1.  Pick them up from the airport, train or bus station.
2.  When they get home give them a walkover of the house.
3.  Invite them to their rooms and explain the intricacies of equipment.
4.  Give them the wifi password.
5.  Leave them alone to handle smaller activities in your house.
6.  Let them cook breakfast after you sure they can.
7.  Take them to places they would love to go without inconveniencing yourself.
8.  Live your life as you would normally.
9.  It takes courage to take on guests, make sure you don't back out.

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How to make that perfect cup of tea

As humans have progressed in life, it becomes important to note the role a cup of tea has in our lives. From getting up early in the morning to the cup of tea to ending the day with a night cap, its role is of vital importance.  Tea is a natural "mind awakener" and though not as strong as coffee it does a fairly good job of it without the other harmful affects of caffeine.

7 steps to making that perfect cup of tea

1.  Heat slightly more than a cup of water to boiling point.
2.  Wait for the kettle to hiss and make all the right noises.
3.  Pour water from kettle to cup and pour 1/20th hot milk into the cup.
4.  Add a tea bag to the cup.
5.  Add sugar to the cup, preferably not more than 1/2 tea spoon.
6.  Sip through the flavour.
7.  Sit on a chair while you work and enjoy the waking up.

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How to cook sardines

Fish are plenty all over the world, they come in all shapes and sizes, and from lakes to rivers to the sea.  Sardines are Omega-3 proteins and very good for health.  The best way to cook sardines is to fry them.

5 steps to cooking sardines :

1.  Open the can of sardines.

2.  The fish is closely packed and is a sea water fish.

3.  Ever heard of the phrase "packed like sardines."

4.  Marinate them with turmeric, salt and red chillies.

5.  Fry them and serve for a perfect meal.

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How to make orange juice

If you ever want to drink orange juice, making some fresh juice would be the way to go.  Oranges come in many varieties, the Spanish variety is particularly nice.  A rich source of Vitamin C, some thought into how to source, peel, juice and serve Orange juice makes for nice drinking pleasure.

4 tricks to making orange juice :

1.  Get the seedless variety, it will help you juice it easy.
2.  Make knife cuts across the diameter of the orange and then use the hand to peel
3.  Put them in a grinder and juicer and serve into a glass
4.  Serve it with a straw in a tall glass.

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How to Kayak the correct way

I went kayaking in New Hampshire, it was experience to behold.  The kayak is a fibre boat that can seat two or seat one, a double seater or a single seater and you row it using oars.  The experience of kayaking can be innervating as you require upper and lower body strength to manoeuvre the kayak.  It is a test of stamina and endurance and worth every single moment.

5 ways to kayak the correct way :

1.  Getting in and out of the kayak can be tough.
2.  Use balance to get in and out of the kayak
3.  The oars have to be dipped into the water at 70 degrees to get the speed.
4.  Lean forward in the kayak while rowing.
5.  Follow the line of the waves as the wake might cause water to come in.

Kayak was fun and I came out with a smile on my face.

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How to get that one perfect love

One perfect love is what most of us should aim for in life, it is the sublime achievement of goals that leads us to it.  One perfect love also the name of my book, talks of how it is possible to achieve it if we know what it is.

5 ways to get that one perfect love :

1.  Solve the life of that love.
2.  Cosmos connect.
3.  When trails overlap or meet.
4.  Its time to bond and relate.
5.  One perfect love is a Correction mode philosophy.

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Best places to write from

I am in the USA in a quaint little town in New Hampshire, one of the best places to write from.  It is quiet and lakefront simply superb, the water falls and rises in a crescendo.  I have been to Shakespeare's cottage in Wales, and this place is exactly the same, the sense and the feel of serenity is enormous.

I sat in front of the cottage by the lakefront and the hills in the background and the lightening beyond it give a sense of security.

3 of the best places to write from :

1. Lakefront cottage in Moultonborough, close to Meredith in New Hampshire.
2. Shakespeare cottage in Wales.
3. Shimla, close to New Delhi.

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When to write a book

It comes as no surprise that we all would want to write a good book, however its better to write than to not write.

7 ways to know when to write a book :

1.  When you feel burdened and loaded.

2.  When you are feeling light and unconcerned.

3.  When you have sat in front of the computer gathering thoughts.

4.  There's no such thing as the right time to write.

5.  Write as often as you feel you have the above feelings.

6.  When you have the characters in your head and the feeling is right.

7.  When the plot gets you with intensity.

To write is to express and to express is wisdom.  Every time we express we are in touch with our inner feelings and they are best served by fresh thoughts that come to us when we write.  Once I sat down to write and nothing would come, so I canned the book for over 52 weeks.  Actually the habit of not writing is easier to get into than the habit of writing.  I would suggest, write every day.

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A snippet - One perfect love

A snippet out of the chapter "Few Random thoughts"

I started this fore note on a tinge of sadness but it will not end on one.  Thoughts run deep here, and I have no need to dwell into sadness, for there is this thought of love and it keeps me alive.   So much has changed since I started writing and I can hear them telling me, “this can't be you.”  Even though I have worked on getting my life back on track, moving from nothing to something of substance.  Till you see the truth it’s a self aggrandizement world and I thought I could do all the writing without a thought to who else could help.  To teach me, it could have been the gamble of some brave men to change the world.

How it hurts to know that the years gone were wasted, the only thought from those days was, “Lord, please forgive me.”  I must have been lonely, and the way it looks, I was.  Then came a time, I lost all of my memories and it got more lonely.  Since then I have counted on my loneliness to bring out big leaps of creativity.  Strangely sometimes I seek it out, and people who know me would tell me, “Here boy, keep it straight” and not let it drift, for when you have been in pain it is easy to move from a perfect world into one of pain.  I thank the lord for I see no reason to move out of this world for today I got my ONE PERFECT LOVE.

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How to create characters for fiction ?

Writing characters for fiction are about a checklist.  Have you done what it takes to create characters.
This is what I did to create characters for One perfect love

5 point checklist to creating characters

1. Do they have a style wardrobe ? Dress sense etc
2. How do they speak ? 

3. How do they look ?
4. How do they treat others? rude, pleasant etc
5. Have you written their back story ?

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Checklist to writing a fiction novel

Authors often wonder how to write fiction, novels are easy to write with this checklist.   As part of the concept of writing One perfect love, these points became apparent.


10 points to remember when writing fiction :

1. Are your characters defined
2. Are they in the location you want them to be
3. Have you given a note about the location
4. Is there a key scene in your novel
5. Is the plot interesting
6. The location and characters accentuate the plot
7. End the novel with a worthy finish
8. Slow down the novel if you think its going to fast
9. Decide slow paced or fast paced action
10.Fiction writing is about creating a fantasy.

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How to keep the computer from crashing ?

Computers are machines and we overload them with work, especially when we are at work, how do you keep yours from crashing :


4 tips to keep computers from crashing :

1.  Don't play audio or video for long while working.
2.  Back up your data regularly.
3.  Notice signs like an erratic mouse or hissing of audio.
4.  Shutdown if you sense overheating, though do back up before you hit the "turn off" switch.

Your computer is your most valuable resource for information, data and internet, keep it secure from viruses, an erratic mouse could also be a sign of virus.  Tell tale signs are giveaways of a badly maintained computer, look after the battery of a laptop and take the cable off when fully charged.  Replace a laptop when it gets old, for instance 3 years.

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Is your nightmare real ?

Nightmares have a tendency to come true when they fall under certain conditions, what are these conditions :


4 conditions under which nightmares come true :

1.  You have been drinking too much.
2.  If you are a writer and want a nightmare to come true.
3.  If you have seen a movie and saw a scene that sticks with you.
4.  Theory defines reality when nightmares come true.

Drinking is a sure shot way to nightmarish hell along with drugs and smokes.  Some people want their nightmares to come true because they want their dreams to come true as well.  I dreamed of a world perfect and got what I wanted along with the nightmare.  It isn't rare to believe that if we see good things only good will happen.

Good happens and shit happens in life.

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Are you stalking your girl friend ?

Men, when they grow up have to watch for certain pitfalls with their girl friends,  life can be hazard if you become an obsessive lover.  Here are 7 ways to avoid being an obsessive lover :


7 ways to avoid being an obsessive lover

1.  Jealously is the meanest emotion.
2.  Avoid it by having other healthy relations.
3.  Keep away from her mobile phone, its her personal  property.
4.  Some women like obsessive behaviour, don't get carried away.
5.  Respect and love her what she is.
6.  Don't let her overpower your work.
7.  Let her know she is in command.

Every male dominated society tends to have some lacunae or other, doesn't mean we are just pawns of society, if we handle our minds well and keep our relationships healthy all will be fine.

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How to win over a girl friend ?

Living in this world as a youngster can't be too easy, life has it pitfalls especially when it comes to girls and girl friends, how does a teenager win over a girl friend ?

Ten ways to win over girl friends

1.  Allow her father to dictate the terms.
2.  Make excuses of group studying for homework.
3.  Love her like you would love an Anushka.
4.  Don't think sex, think sweet cuddly love.
5.  Never ever think sex even when she is not around.
6.  Win her first as a friend.
7.  Do you have it in you be her best friend.
8.  Don't confuse love with best friendship.
9.  Girls are different from boys, more sensitive, unless you are a Tom Cruise
10.Let the Cosmos point out who you have to win over.

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The characters and cast

Here is a list of characters in "One perfect love - A philosophy"

1.  Daniel Morgan
2.  Bella Joel
3.  Kimberly Morgan
4.  Mona Silvia
5.  Jon Joshi
6.  Brenda Joshi
7.  George Millay
8.  Rohan Mehra

Daniel Morgan a country boy falls in love with Bella Joel,  he has been married to Kimberly Morgan for 8 years in a marriage of a losing cause.  Mona Silvia is Daniels best friend and advises him against divorce.  Jon his old time college friend also reiterates the same thing.  Daniel goes ahead and proposes to Bella Joel and she accepts.


The book travels across Delhi, the works of Daniel Morgan, the main cast, a software scientist who falls out of love and then LOVES again.

Lives go by in SEARCH of that one PERFECT love.  The importance of this cannot be overstated, a person seeks love in all its perfections, and yet to be perfect, their love has to be UNDERSTOOD by both involved.  Often we come back to our loves of the PAST because the COSMOS points them to be the perfect match for us at that point in time in the present.  Based on  experience, Daniel could reliably say that it takes years for MATURITY to dawn on both the people to reach the perfect FIT.

One wanders in love because we still haven't found that fit that we look for in our lives.  There is an way to compositely find a solution to the pain of a past love even after the relationship is over.  If you can answer all the questions that a past love asks you and it is the most accepted solution, then we could always move to a new level with the choice of the Cosmos.

We are constantly told by the universe what is the best love based on our present situation, and it is so because love is what makes the world go around.  Finding love in your life is easier and simpler, you may even find your existing partner to be your soul mate.  You just haven't looked at the relationship with maturity enough to define it as thus.


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Sample chapter from the book
One perfect love - A philosophy



The recurring nightmare
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Daniel Morgan woke up in cold sweat and thought about the nightmare that woke him up.
She was waiting, yes Bella was waiting, on the other side of the river, Daniel had to get across this bridge, the sound of the cars was deafening, traffic was dense as he walked through the narrow bridge. He was being given glares by the cars that passed him by.  He was really in a hurry, he had to meet her today and it was urgent, she had called him and told him to come by the river.
The bridge seemed too narrow but then it had Forever written on it, he never saw it coming, they had been friends for over two years and this last year had seemed tough to get by, Daniel had fallen madly and deeply in love with her this year.
“You are a married man.”
“Yes but it makes no difference to me today,” Daniel had replied back.
“I am touched,” she had sarcastically mentioned and walked away.
For two days he had waited for a call.  Desperately, his soul had wanted to know that it was alright, that she missed him as much as he did her, “Don’t,” his mind had snapped back at him, “Don’t get into an emotional entanglement, life is one big party,” but in this consumed state of mind, he didn’t listen.  He continued to dream about her, her eyes were fascinatingly large and wide and he continued to drown in them, thinking of her was like an addiction, too good to be true and too hurtful to live with.  He was staring down masochism and bondage, just then he looked over to the bridge he was on, it had steel ropes tied to it, flowing down from the towers and no matter how hard the wind, it wouldn’t be able to move.
The traffic was slow and it would be, they didn’t design for anything more than two lanes, his memories flowed like the river beneath the bridge, it occurred to him that he was so deeply and madly in love that he had forgotten to love himself.
Back on the bridge, suddenly Daniel heard the screeching of a car behind him, it was his wife, Kimberly; she was honking and pressing on the accelerator pedal to keep the engine roaring.  “Hey,” she screamed over the traffic, he was standing in the middle of the bridge, stunned look on his face, he wasn’t expecting any situation here, he already had too much on my mind.

“I want you back, now and forever,” she said as her car ambled right next to him, the traffic was slow, so they were moving at the same pace.  He didn’t say word, he was too busy looking to the other side of the bridge where Bella was waiting for him.  His mind had already started dreaming what could be, buy a wedding ring this summer, maybe go for a holiday to Ibiza, Spain; his mind had been running while he had been briskly walking on the bridge.  He still couldn’t see her right now, but his heart told him she would be there.
Suddenly there was confusion on the bridge, he turned around to see the Mini Van that had followed his Kimberly, it was from the Rehabilitation institute, his heart felt cold suddenly and he began to run, looking back he saw four of them in white attire get down from the Van and start running after him, cold wind hit his face, his eyes popped open and heart pumping, his legs scissored on the bridge trying to get some gap going between him and them.
He had always been like that, their world versus my world, suddenly he felt an arm around his waist and he was slammed with a force to the tarmac.  He was huge guy and he kept punching Daniel’s face, Daniel tried to slip through his grasp but the force of his punches had him scratched and torn, there was already a bulge in his left eye and his lips were bleeding.  He stopped struggling and all four of them caught hold of him, the traffic had come to a stand still as if the specter of him being picked up and put into the white Van was the most interesting thing in their lives.  The door of the Van shut and darkness engulfed him, the bridge had closed down forever now.
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